SEX AT CAMPUS (UNIVERSITIES)

I had conservations with different campus girls and the following are the reasons I found out as to why girls give consent for sex with boys at campus.

Money; when a girl sees that the boy has money. This is seen when a boy buys a girl food at campus, some gifts like chocolate, sweets which in the end makes girls to give consent for sex.

Peer pressure; girls talks at campus are different from those in high school. A girl talk at campus is more of sex, men, boyfriends; this pushes a girl who has never had sex with men, boyfriends. This pushes a girl who has never had sex to give consent.

Competition at campus; campus girls compete in a lot of things which include dressing code, phones, make up, bags, where they oat from, where they part from, hair styles and many others of which when one of the competing party cannot afford and does not want to loose, they end up giving in sex to boys to get them since they think boys are a supporting machine.

A boy’s family background; when a boy at campus comes from s very influential and known family it draws many girls close to him that even if he asks for sex none of them can hesitate to give in.

 A boy’s status at campus; for example the guild, speaker and many others. Girls being closer to such people makes them feel great at campus hence end up sleeping with them.

A boy who has a car at campus; A boy who drives himself to campus is seen as a great person and is always talked about by other fellow course mates which draws many girls to him and end up having sex with some or most of them.

Sex consent

This is where one partner actively agrees to engage in the act of sex.

The following are the indicators of girls who have consented for sex.

She will give you consent. It is important to ease into intimate together and the key to making such she is just as excited as you are, is making sure she gives consent. “she should give you permission every step of the way about what she wants, likes and is pleasurable to her and how she is open to inviting you into that sexual space with her” says licensed marriage and family therapist Marrissa Nelson.

She will ask about logistics. While your thoughts process about having sex for the first time with your new lady, might only extend to what it feels like more strategically and organized. After being intimate many women and men want to spend time cuddling, talking and lying naked together, basking in the post orgasm warmth. So lf you’re doing later or tomorrow morning, she may be trying to figure out if tonight is the night.

She will make an effort to get closer. As she gets to know you, you might notice that she lets her guard down more or she relaxes into your shoulder more easily, learning on you or holding your hand. She will become more open about sex in general and be curious about how you feel about the subject. She will start to want more closeness and sexuality and may start dropping sexual cues when you’re together increasing physical affection or want to inviting you over to watch a movie and staying in, even asking for cuddles or a sensual message. You know she feels comfortable with you and increasingly allows you to touch her body and let you into her personal spare. Nelson says.

She will start sexting. Sexting is a sexy part of your couple hood, right from the beginning and even before you get intimate. Nelson says that when a woman is toying with the idea of taking the sexual game to the next level, she might start sending some scantily clad photos and descriptive blue-bubbles your way. “Perhaps she might start talking to you about what her sexual preferences are, and conservation can lead to erotic talk and sexting.” She says here, she’s attempting to get to know what you’re like in bed before your clothes come off together in person.

She will ask about your history. While you might be more into sending texts during the day detailing what you can’t wait to do to her, she’s wondering about what you have already done. When a woman is thinking about sleeping with you, and possibly even starting a relationship with you where you would go condom-free, she may start wondering about sexual history. Nelson says she will ask questions like “are you seeing someone else right now?” or “how many dates have you been on in the last weeks?”  To gauge how sexually responsible and safe you are. She could also ask you to get tested both before sex.

She will invite you upstairs. Though having you over to her place doesn’t mean she is ready to run all the three bases to home, it does mean that she is ready to be alone with you. Brown James says that if she intimates sexual play, it could be an indicator that she’s thinking about things to the next level, but again, this is where consent has to play a big role in your passion planning. Brown James says a woman will say “I would like to have sex with you” or something sexier like “I want you now”. When she is fully ready to commit to the next level. As long as you are going at her pace and listening and feeling her cues, you will both be golden.